Weight of what you are

I noticed a slight flaw in my thinking when I had that conversation with Nathan. Yes, it is true that being a furry implies a lot of bad things to those who actually know what it is, but at the same time the general public doesn't have a clue. Personally, it was (and at times still is) extremely difficult to talk about furry to anyone, because I immediately assumed the worst would happen if I told them, almost as if I were going around telling people I was a wolf again or something.

In a sense, because of the mindset I held whilst being a furry, that's partially true for me. Yes, I had a wolf fursona, and for seemingly good reasons that justified it (it was a means to remind myself of where God had brought me from--trying to make myself not hate wolves anymore because of wolves being one of God's many creations... etc.), but in all reality, furry was just another way for me to escape.

To be honest, being a furry would have been a lot more fun for me if I'd had different motives for "being one." That connotation right there, the idea of "being" a furry, brought me back to the ideal that I was something other than what God made me to be. The furries I know generally don't hold that mentality; it was poison that I was holding onto from my older days that corrupted my furry experience.

Anything and everything, if moderated incorrectly, can lead someone into sin, taking away precious moments in life that would otherwise be there. When I was asked to play with my little brother or sister, or watch a movie with family, or heck even eat with the family, I would say no more than half the time, because I was on the computer hanging out in CFF.

There was a carnal attachment that kept me there, one I didn't notice or even want to admit was there. From the day that I chose to call myself furry, I was sinning. Not because furry is bad, but because I wanted another escape, and my flesh wanted an escape, and moreover, another identity that would make it feel like I was stronger than I felt I was.

The furry identity I adopted became so much more than just a hobby, it became who I was as a whole. Furry wasn't a fandom for me, it was a race of people who were different from the rest of the world... which is exactly what I was searching for, a way to differentiate from other human beings somehow without holding onto the belief that I wasn't human myself, and not only that, a community where I could uphold this identity.

Let me ask you this: Are you involved in something, some kind of community or club you enjoy? How much of that community is part of who you are? How much weight do you put on telling someone "what you are?"

The only thing that should have any sort of weight or importance, I feel, is who you are in Christ. There's so much more worth in that... nothing in this world could ever give you any true lasting importance, importance and worth that will last until the end of the age.

Setting my priorities.

(I'll get to my prayer request in just a moment... but first, I'd like to point a thing or two out to anyone who has the spare time.)

Now, people as of late will argue that I'm never online. I would have to agree with them, considering my slacking off on housework has come back to haunt me. Dad's got me working in the yard and in the house, but with my staying up past midnight so often, I oftentimes have little strength to do what's asked of me.

I'm sure that very many like myself love spending time online. If it's not the internet, then, there is SOMETHING that people like me can't live without--games, cellphones, forums, the list goes on. We see God as important, we love our Father. We may pray every night, read our bibles, all that good stuff, but the time we spend doing what we feel we have to do, well... sometimes that time takes a little too much priority over everything else.

In my case, I've spent my whole life immersing myself in anything I could to live in a proverbial fantasy world. When it's not video games, it's either friends online or the internet in general. I shut myself off from my family, from people at school, and what little time I had to develop social skills was given to my imagination... and recently, it still is. I don't talk to people at school unless they happen to share a common interest (and those people are few, and I rarely speak to them as is... if ever.) I could care less for the jock, or the gangster, or anyone else. Faith? I don't even bother asking about it.

...And all this time, while I spent my life worrying about how to find my next "imaginary high", I threw away the great commission. I threw away what I was called to do... and I called myself a Christian?! If I could go back, right now, and see myself living the life I was then, I'd beat the living daylights out of me.

This really started to hit me when Mom got onto me about being a furry. She doesn't bash us because of the furry hobby, heck she doesn't even understand it. But because of all the time I've spent, just like the time I've wasted on everything else that I got my hands on in the past, she sees us all as escapist children who are trying to avoid reality at all costs. You all know that that is just not true of us furs, or heck any hobby group.

I realized earlier whilst working in the yard that I'd wasted my life trying to escape into a fantasy. Whether it was my video games or wanting to be a wolf and actually trying to be one or whatever, I was always, and until today, always trying to find a venue to get out of life. In all this, I missed one HUGE picture: the Great Commission!

All the time I spent wasting in an attempt to escape reality is time I could've spent building friendships. In the bible, a passage in the New Testament reads that Paul became all things to all men so that he might save some. In this, I have sinned something awful. I disregarded the interests of others, I secluded myself into my own world for the past 8 years... and it cost me a lot of potential friends, and it ruined a lot of chances that I could've had to share the love of Jesus, which is why we're alive in the first place, to live for our Father, and to share His love with everyone.

Even recently, when all these wonderful changes are unfolding and I'm growing more and more in Jesus each day, I still seek escape. Tell me, how is that gonna save anyone? I can't walk up to someone and say "Oh, look at all the faith points Jesus has given me. I'm such a good Christian and Jesus loves me." It just doesn't work that way.

My main thing in all this is: My priorities have been out of whack for a long time. My main priority, for the past 8 years if not longer, has been looking for a way to get into my fantasy world and stay there. That purpose is reflected in how I wasted in how I spent my time doing everything from playing too many video games to trying to turn into a wolf to roleplaying... everything was wasted.

I'm not saying those things are bad and evil and should never be done (well, the wolf thing was bad... don't do that :P), but... God should always be first. He gave you everything you have, gave me everything I have... and I should be showing my blessings to everyone I know through my actions and love for others, no matter who and what they are.

...So my prayer is that I keep God first, and that He will ALWAYS be my first priority... and I pray the same for every Christian fur and Christian alike.

Furries and the CFF

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o-o… Hi. You don’t know me, but for introduction purposes, just call me Kail.

I’m uhm… actually I’m an ex-therianthrope (wolf, go figure). I stopped when I was 17, but technically that was only a couple of months ago (in May). I still look at furries from time to time for personal entertainment I guess. I’m a little worried though… because well, one of the main reasons why I stopped is because God created me as me, not as a wolf… so it was wrong to try an turn into one. Not to jump onto anyone, but didn’t God also create man in his own image? In this… perhaps the ideal of being a furry is improper. God made us just the way he wanted, and (biblically speaking) He doesn’t look upon trying to escape our original design lightly, in mind or body…

*Shrug* I dunno. I mean, I picture a lot of furry-stuff in my mind from time to time, usually transformation sequences (I was a therian for 5 years. The idea kinda stuck with me.)

So, sir, if you could help me figure things out with secure, unbreakable biblical evidence, I’d really appreciate it. Thanks.

In Christ,

Kail

P.S. Please pray that I find a sturdy answer. -_-;;

This is an e-mail I sent to DracoDei in December, the 19th. It was still in my sent items folder...

I had my doubts about you guys, I really did. Big doubts. I thought you guys were totally nuts at first...

...and then I met you all.

You all have proven me wrong and destroyed the typical furry stereotype, and moreover, helped me grow in Christ in great extents. I don't find myself crying in contriteness anymore, so much as I find myself blessed and happy as I see God's blessings unfold.

You all have proven to me that growth in Christ IS possible, that in Him I can truly be strong... it's a miracle of the Lord that I found you all, and I don't care what anyone says against that.

I can hear Him say... It's a brand new day.

Ok, so get to the point! What did you do, anyway?

People are drawn to chaos for one specific reason--they want change in some way, shape, or form. Me, well... I didn't just want change, I felt like I desperatley needed it. In my younger days (about 5 years ago), I wanted the impossible to happen--I wanted power.

This want for power didn't spring off as an instant lust, it sprang from an innocent curiosity that most kids my age had--most kids wonder what being an animal is like. Me, having too much free time, got on the internet and actually looked to see if that was possible. To the shock of my 12-year old brain, I found articles that spoke of ways to make this happen--articles that spoke of shapeshifting.

Finding such articles seemed like an instant blessing for me. When I found them, I instantly printed them out, shut off the computer, and ran to my room to attempt a change of any kind. I sat in my floor, closed my eyes, and thought of what I wanted (I was trying to become a wolf of some sort). To my shock, my heart rate went up, the room began to spin, and my head started to hurt. This scared me half to death, and at the same time presented some sort of hope that this was actually achievable.

From that point on, as I was met with more insults at school, (or to support my chaos theory, as things got more hectic (building levels of chaos) in my life), I became more desperatley drawn to this psychotic dream. Soon, by 8th grade, I was making attempts to change at least every two weeks, and by second semester freshman year I was trying almost nightly. The violent, raging power of a wolf became more and moreenticing as life progressed... and like all things drawn to chaos, I constantly wanted it with an increasing urge to fulfill what I soon started calling "my dream".

I met a friend in another state that eventually admitted to having the same "dream". However, unlike me, he claimed to have actually gotten his wish, and was activley involved in frequent transformations. In some way or another he was able to make me believe him (more or less by telling me how it all happened), and this also helped to make me want to become a wolf myself--through the power of a wolf ghost/spirit.

Time went on, and by the time he had told me everything, I found myself with an apparition myself. The name of the spirit I will not disclose, nor the physical description (for the sake of keeping the memory of him out of my mind), but I will tell you that he stayed with me for a full year.

Had I not been going to church regularly, he (the spirit) would have possibly given me what I wanted, but at the price of my life sooner or later. At church, he would frequently say things such as "I don't want to be here, Kail... these humans will kill me," or "This doesn't feel right... I'm scared," or he would just flat-out refuse to go.

The next couple of paragraphs contain rather nonsensical details about what happened. Keep in mind that I don't have the same mindset as before, and left all such "theories" behind when I gave this all up.

On top of that, as crazy as it sounds (if it's not crazy enough already) he eventually told me he was hellbound. Either that, or my subconcious made me feel that that was the case. Nonetheless, this struck me with great fear, and I told him to leave and never come back.

Despite giving him and the powers he seemed to give away, I continued to search for ways to make my dream a reality. I experimented with ethereal substances and somehow rose the natural production (seemingly) of those substances in my body, in hopes that I would have enough "mind over matter" to make it all happen. At times it would feel as if I were extremley close, and at times it felt as if I had left my human self, despite still being in my own body.

Nevertheless, not once did a physical change occur. This may have just been the providence of God preventing it, or the likely chance that no amount of spiritual power could break the laws of physics (insert laughter here). This may be the case of all others who are attempting this, so keep that in mind. Even if something real and physical DOES happen (as it seemed to with my friend), you'll pay the price in some way later on. In some way or another, when chaotic states of being escalate to some level, some sort of price ALWAYS has to be paid (usually death, but it depends on the type of chaos the victim is going through).

My chaos theories were not what stopped me from trying to be a wolf. As I said in my first post, my actions ceased by means of divine intervention.

In the ending months of my actions, I chose to look more to God so as to ascertain his will. I prayed more, I started paying real attention in church for the first time, and in a strange but life-changing manner, my actions ceased with my hand reaching to heaven and my eyes practically bleeding (metaphorically) tears. For the first time in my life, I chose to fight the chaos in my life by giving it all to God Himself, and I experienced a feeling that NOTHING on this world can beat--the feeling of God's eternal love. I knew God forgave me for everything I did, despite the countless times I bashed Him and even loathed Him for not giving me my "dream". I knew God was saying "It's alright, no harm no foul." I truly felt like He cared, like he was really there.

This, readers, is the true reason I write to you--to tell you that your life doesn't need some sort of "magick" or any such thing to make it special. Want to know something real? Try really getting to know God and I promise you: You'll never feel the need for such things again, and your

What do you mean "One Once Bound"?

It is my scientifically proven belief (proven by pysicists, even) that every object, both living and nonliving, eventually turns to chaos. Human beings, however, are bound to a different kind of chaos. For example-- a child asks for a cookie and his mother says no. Chances are, despite being told no, the child goes for the cookie against his mother's wishes.

Before I continue to rant on about cookies, let me cut to the chase. We, as humans, are eternally destined to stray from proper direction. In lamens terms, we are bound to chaos.

Some, in their lives, choose to immerse themselves in chaos. Others choose to find a way to escape that chaos--usually by finding religion. However, even in the midst of finding "salvation" (in some religions more than others), people always find their way back to the proverbial off-road.

However, despite this, we human beings have a very powerful weapon against chaos. As much as people refuse to accept the truth (whilst being in great chaos themselves), that weapon is the unbreakable text... the voice of God: The Bible.

With the voice of God by my side, I was able to break the chains that kept me tied to chaos itself, and although I am attacked and twisted by chaos at times, the Bible always helps me find my way back... Now, how was I bound by chaos you ask? Well... that's why you're here, isn't it?